As soon as our Indian couples enter the wed lock the next tagged question is about planning for a baby. The question of readiness is completely ignored or conveniently brushed off that, “We the elders will take care, so you better plan quick before we grow too old”.

If you are planning to get pregnant, here are the few questions that should be addressed as a couple:

• Why do we need a baby?

Is it because of the love and inner calling to nurture a tiny soul or are we giving in for the external pressure to be validated.

• Are we on the same page to welcome the baby?

It takes 2 for a tango, similarly both the partners will need to be ready to do this. A baby can’t bridge the gaps and keep the relationship secure.

• What about our lifestyle?

The parents eating, sleeping, physical fitness, stress, alcohol and smoking habits does impact the offspring. Much before planning, it is ideal to do a detox and start with a clean slate.

        Planning on your work life balance, finances and support system will be a much needed prep work as it can be slightly challenging at times considering our current setups.

Is it worth the effort?

A big fat “yes”, is what I have to say as a mom of 2